Problem Solving Recurring Behaviors and Triggers

Season 4- Episode 30

In the final episode of the emotional regulation series, Lauren dives into the third step: problem-solving. If you haven’t listened to the previous two episodes, be sure to check them out first. Sometimes, emotional dysregulation stems from a recurring issue that can’t be resolved with regulation techniques alone—it requires working through the problem itself.

Lauren walks through the importance of keeping communication simple: "You felt, I felt, problem, solution."

With problem solving, timing is key—you can’t address problem-solving when a child is dysregulated or immediately after, as this could re-trigger them. The goal here isn’t to teach a lesson, but to collaboratively solve a problem in a way that helps children feel heard and open to solutions.

Don’t forget to share what you’ve learned, write it down, and apply these strategies in real-life situations!

If you haven't already, check out Five Ives to see how strategies like this can be applied to adults, especially in the workplace. Five Ives works with staff in high burnout jobs to help them incorporate regulation strategies into their daily routines.

Try-at-home tip: Eating mindfully - be present with your meal.

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