Positive Communication Using the "I See" Strategy

Season 2 - Episode 11

Great communication with your children results in stronger relationships, greater cooperation, and feelings of worth and value. As adults, we have no problem dishing out instructions but that takes away all of the child’s control and ownership. This often leads to kids that don’t listen. 

Lauren discusses the first of her 7 Communication Tactics in this episode, the “I see…”  Strategy. Part of this strategy is giving your kiddo a problem to solve instead of a verbal order. This option gives them a chance to be in control of the situation instead of being told what to do. The body’s stress response system REALLY likes that! 

Remember –
When making changes like this, give both yourself and your kiddos some grace. You are learning a new “language”, and they need time to understand it.

The next several episodes talk more about the 7 Communication Tactics. Be sure to catch them all!

Mentioned in this episode:
Pneumonic for the 7 Communication Tactics: SCHWINF
Books by Dr. Mark Hyman
The Unhealthy Truth by Robyn O’Brien

Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode:
How can I help children cope with underlying stress?

Try-at-home tip: Drink half your body weight in ounces every day! 

Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Positive Communication: Give Children a Problem to Solve
Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Kids (& Adults!)

Podcast:
Why Behaviors Occur - The 5 Needs Areas

Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: Communicating so kids listen the FIRST time
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings – How to Self-Regulate (5 Needs Areas) 

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